Slave Chat

Today on the internet there are a vast number of chat rooms, forums and message boards all targeted to those with an interest in the Dominant submissive (D/s) Lifestyle.  These forums target all aspects of the Dominant submissive Lifestyle, whether Dominant submissive, Master slave, BDSM Top or bottom, Gorean Master slave, or a multitude of other variations of different types of power exchange relationships.

Unfortunately, most of these forums don't indicate whether the environment is one strictly of role play, or if the individuals found in the chat room have a genuine interest, or participation in a power exchange relationship, nor do they distinguish between or acknowledge the different types of Power exchange relationships. 

Frequently the novice submissive or slave (and to at least some extent, the novice Dominant or Master), seeking to learn about or find a total power exchange (TPE) relationship, is drawn to an environment (chat room or forum) by the lure of sheer numbers of people proclaiming to be "in the lifestyle", or promises of "submissive" or "slave training".  When in reality, few if any in the environment have any actual participation or involvement in a Dominant submissive or Power Exchange relationship.  To most that are there, it's an opportunity for "role play", it's a "game" where no one will get hurt.    There is no thought or consideration given to the feelings and emotions of the one(s) that happened to venture there with very valid and legitimate needs, seeking to learn, seeking acceptance, hoping to find the path to that one special power exchange relationship. 

There is no one way of guaranteeing that a legitimate  submissive or slave won't mistakenly end up in an environment that just isn't what she thought it was, but there are some steps a submissive or slave should take, or at least consider before she sets out in search of a submissive or slave chat room or forum. 

The first and most obvious, but hardest to do, slow down!  Don't expect to find that perfect Dominant submissive relationship after a 5 minute internet search.  It's not going to happen, that's not reality. 

Next, as you begin to explore these various chat room environments, and yes, there are some very good and legitimate chat rooms and web sites out there, make sure you realize there are many many more "bad ones".  Accept that fact for what it is.  Don't just assume because someone places a label on it, it is automatically going to be just what you envision it to be. 

Learn what to look for as warning signs, danger signals or red flags.  You may be a submissive or slave, or at least think you want to be, but that doesn't make you just anyone's submissive or slave.  If you enter a place and immediately outlandish demands are made of you, seemingly impossible tasks or expectations are established, it's time to take a second look! 

 

Accept the fact that if you are in a group of Dominants or Masters, they may by their very nature tend to be a demanding bunch, but a true Dominant or Master is also going to be understanding, compassionate and reasonable.  They're going to understand a submissive or slave, especially one new to the Lifestyle is going to be hesitant, shy and uncertain.  They're not going to offer ultimatums such as, "if you don't do this, you're obviously not a submissive or slave".  Most importantly, they are going to have a knowledge and understanding of the most basic cornerstones of any Dominant submissive or Master slave relationship, which are Communication, Trust, Respect and Honor(honesty).  No, Dominants are not all Teddy Bears, nor are they all the image of a harsh, overbearing Viking so don't start looking at Dominants with a preconceived notion of what every Dominant or Master is like.  Just as you are very unique and different, so are they.

 

Expect to be welcomed to the chat room environment by the other submissives and slaves that are about; but become a bit concerned if none will step up to the plate and respond to your request for information or protocols about the environment.  Tend to be a bit on guard if suddenly everyone seems to be pushing you towards one particular Dominant as being "perfect for you".  A true submissive or slave is going to know that every girl has her own ideas of what she needs or wants.  Just as they'll know that it may take time to establish the trust needed to establish a rapport with anyone, Dominant or submissive. 

 

Last, but certainly not least learn to trust your instincts a bit.  If you've stumbled into a chat room, forum, or for that matter, a real life event, if you aren't comfortable there, if others tend to make you feel uncomfortable or uneasy, it's time to analyze those feelings.  Ask yourself why..  It may be that for whatever reason, that environment is not for you.  Don't hesitate to move on until you find the one chat room environment that you can be comfortable in.  

 

If you heed the guidance offered on this page, I think your encounters in a slave chat environment will be much more productive.  Your chances of finding a legitimate, lasting Dominant submissive or Master slave relationship will greatly increase.  In the online world, participation in a dominant submissive or Master slave chat room or online forum can and will provide you with an unparalleled opportunity to not only learn about the Dominant submissive lifestyle, but to share with others ideas, experiences and knowledge.

 

 

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