There is nothing more wonderful than knowing who you are.
Nothing like realizing all your unanswered questions and needs
finally have reason and rhyme.
You have bided your time, explored all of your options,
thought and rethought who would be right for you. Who would be the
perfect other half to you. As many are wont to do, you choose
unwisely maybe the first time, the second time, maybe several times
before you realize there is much more to this than saying "Yes Sir"
or "Kneel down".
This takes work! This takes as much work as any relationship
and often times takes more. I think many times, Dominant
submissive (D/s) relationships becomes
for lack of a better word, a fairytale. Thinking that if you find
that 'perfect O/one', all you do is simply be. I think we often
times because of such incredible want, for a while push away the
realities of life to drift in this new union, this overwhelming
bliss of soul.
But no matter how much of a 'inborn' submissive you may be, or
how very Dominant your personality is, there are always times when
you just don't want to simply say "Yes Sir" or when you just don't
want the responsibility of being the one in charge. We all have bad
days. Factor in family situations, health, finances, and simple
human nature and the fairytale ends quickly.
It seems to me that often times V/t websites portray to those
just finding their way how utterly perfect life is one you find "The
O/one". - I am not saying this is true of all sites, just enough
that i wonder what those just seeking relationships assume to be
true. Going over my own site, i see where there is a lot of the
good, and so lately, am also trying to include the struggle.
Nothing is perfect. It is the work and the effort and the
tears that bind a couple together, the real test of whether or not a
couple should be together at all. How well you handle the trials of
day to day as well as the trials that are added within the context
of maintaining a Dominant submissive (D/s) relationship beyond the online chat room and
those only active on the weekend as a way of 'fun' or 'escape' from
everyday life.
The truth is - there are many tears, there are many tests of
faith and trust and belief. From within and outside the
relationship. There are lots of times it will feel so much easier to
'get out'. There are a lot of times that you question yourself and
your decisions, your needs, your abilities to handle such a deep and
vulnerable relationship with another person.
The truth is it's not the fairytale we all wish it could be.
It is real. It is hard. It is soul baring and quite capable of
delivering you with the greatest hurts. But with care, with
communication, with effort, it certainly can be everything you ever
dreamed you could experience with a Dominant or
submissive, it can
bare to the surface depths of yourself you never realized existed.
Be patient, be willing to talk, be willing to take a step back
when needed, be willing to put all of your heart and soul on the
table. Be able to admit that hurt will come, just face it head on
and stay honest. All that matters is that you 'both' want it to work
and you both are willing to 'work' at making it everything you've
longed and searched for. Everything else 'can' be dealt with. One
step at a time.
One Step at a Time
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