On The Kinky Side (BDSM)

Anger and BDSM

10-10-2011 Hits:1029 BDSM Related Articles Screamer - avatar Screamer

Part One - Dealing with your anger as a submissive (Disclaimer:  A rare thing for me.  D/s is fluid, and different for everyone.  This essay may not work in your personal...

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A 'FREE' Months Membership...

13-10-2014 Hits:1188 Asj Site Related Content CJ - avatar CJ

Do you have a blog, a web site, or a Facebook page?    Would you like a month’s free Gold membership on Asj?   If you have one of these pages and you’ll...

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From the Asj Library

Ways to Encourage a Submissive Attitude

26-03-2013 Hits:1041 D/s Lifestyle Topics Sexsperts - avatar Sexsperts

Ways to Encourage a Submissive Attitude

While some subs and slaves like to brag about how they are "true submissives" or "naturally submissive," I think that's a load of hogwash. Yes, some of us are...

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The Asj Web Site hosts D/s and BDSM Lifestyle Classes and Discussions every Sunday and Wednesday evening at 9:15 PM (Eastern Time). Topics include all aspects of power exchange and BDSM relationships. These classes are free to attend and open to all members. Regardless of your lifestyle role, or level of experience, we invite you to attend.

Asj has long recognized the various styles or forms of Power Exchange Relationships.  Included in these is the Gorean (Gor) lifestyle.  Although originally based on a series of science fiction books by John Norma, modified a bit to allow for reality, Gor is a very viable form of the Lifestyle, both online and off.  Gor is considered to be a very black or white type structure, filled with protocols, traditions and rules.  It is also considered to be very sensual.  A girls obedience and loyalty in Gor is considered to be absolute. Asj’s Gorean Community is referred to as “The Sanctuary Vidrew” (SV).  If your interest is towards Gor, we invite you to visit the Gorean sections in the Library and to visit the SV Chat Room. 

The Asj Web Site hosts D/s and BDSM Lifestyle Classes and Discussions every Sunday and Wednesday evening at 9:15 PM (Eastern Time). Topics include all aspects of power exchange and BDSM relationships. These classes are free to attend and open to all members. Regardless of your lifestyle role, or level of experience, we invite you to attend.

In BDSM different toys may have different purposes than you might think at first guess.  As an example, most would think a ‘gag” is obviously for silencing a girl.  Did you know a ‘Ball Gag’ actually isn’t very useful to silence a submissive/bottom?

 

A ball gag's purpose is more of humiliation rather than silence; the wearer can still be heard, but it renders their speech completely unintelligible, distorts their facial features, and, should the wearer attempt to talk, excessive drooling will result.

 

As you begin to use various toys, try to learn a little bit about them and how they are best used before you use them.

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