About your Mentor

The word Mentor comes from Homer (an ancient storyteller also author of the classic book "The Odyssey" and "The Iliad").

Mentor was the man whom Odysseus trusted with his household while he went off for ten years to fight the Trojan war.

A "Mentor" is someone you trust.

WHAT A MENTOR IS NOT:

1) Infallible...we are human

2) a Teacher or Guardian...we can only advise

3) Your Master, we can not tell you not to communicate or not to do something. Only you can decide.

4) Reference checker, only you should do that, only you know what you risk. We can show you how, but after that it is up to you.

5) Responsible for you...only you are responsible for your safety and decisions, once you have a Master then they become responsible as well, but you are your first guardian.

WHAT A MENTOR IS:

1) A listening ear, and a shoulder

2) Someone who can show you how to research, and learn safely. They can point out pitfalls but you will always find your own.

3) A caring friend.

4) Someone with their own experience who is willing to share that with you...not control or direct you by it.

5) Someone who can introduce you to a strange new world for you to explore...but who can not explore it for you.

Most of all a Mentor is there when you make those first steps with a new Dom, or new steps with an old one...ready to listen...and watch you take wing.

Many tend to believe that a Mentor must be a Male Dominant, that is simply not so.  A Mentor can be another Dominant or submissive, yes, either male or female.  The important thing is it should be someone that you trust, someone you can confide in.  While the most commonly heard about Mentor is a Mentor for a submissive, the reality is it is quite common for a Dominant to also have a Mentor.  Another fallacy is that only a novice or newcomer to the lifestyle needs or should consider having a Mentor.  Regardless of your role or experience in the lifestyle a Mentor may prove to be a valuable asset to you. 

Remember, a Mentor's purpose is not to tell you what to do, nor should they be making decisions for you.  You are not accountable to your Mentor for any of your actions or decisions you make.