A submissives journey
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In all truth, the practice of slavery was abolished by the 13th amendment of the Constitution of the United States, thus making the practice illegal and any contracts calling for it unbinding.
But.... does that stop those who seek in their own hearts to be "slaves"? No, it doesn't. Why not?
Simple... this is America. This is the Land Of The Free and The Home Of The Brave. We pride ourselves as a nation as being the place where anyone in the world can come and express themselves.. without fear of persecution and deridment. Our country's tumultuous past has been riddled with the deaths of Men and Women alike, who gave up their lives to preserve that concept.
We, in this alternative lifestyle, have chosen our individual forms of self expression. Yes, I said chosen. No one can force anyone to be a submissive. No one can force someone into any situation they wish.
But... in this lifestyle.. we have what is called TPE, which is.. Total Power Exchange. Which is defined in the book... Screw The Roses, Give Me The Thorns, as "the empowerment of the Dominant BY the submissive's surrender to His/Her control. The power exchange is consensual and should be well negotiated. The depth of power yielded by the submissive is equal to the level of responsibility assumed by the Dominant."
That means... that the submissive/bottom/would-be slave VOLUNTARILY gives up the authority they hold over themselves to a Dominant. Thus bringing about as "slave- like" an existence as is possible under the constraints of the 13th Amendment. This sort of relationship CAN but does NOT always cross over to matters of personal finance, employment choices, even personal hygiene. But what is always doubly stressed is the importance of the responsibilities of each partner. The responsibility of the Dominant to care and nurture the submissive/bottom/ would-be slave, and the responsibility of the submissive/ bottom/would-be slave to always be open and honest. Communication between the two is VITAL.
Now some may query.... but does that mean that the submissive/bottom/would-be slave is now without basic human rights? The answer to that is a resounding no! A TPE relationship.. isn't one that is entered to haphazardly.. or at least it shouldn't be. Each party must really.. and I mean REALLY know the other person. Time must be taken to develop a true bond... not just some superficial attachment that allows for erotic sceneing.
A great deal of the time.. the term submissive is exchanged for the term "slave" for quite a few reasons. One of which being that often times people don't acknowledge that there are varying degrees of submission. The following excerpt is from an article written by William A. Henkin, Ph.D. , entitled Submission, Worship, and Slavery...
"In a brief essay Pat Califia included in The Lesbian SM Safety Manual (Boston: Alyson), Diane Vera describes "Nine Degrees of Submission." They include:
1. the "outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist,"
2. the "Pseudo-submissive non-slave,"
3. the "Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave,"
4. the "True submissive non-slave,"
5. the "True submissive PLAY slave,"
6. the "Uncommitted short-term but more-than-play semi -slave,"
7. the "Part-time consensual-but-REAL slave,"
8. the "Full-time live-in consensual slave," and
9. the "Consensual total slave with no limits."
As she observes, "in the SM subculture, the majority of ‘submissives' seek scenes in categories 1 through 3, whereas most of the dominants I know … seek slaves in categories 6 and 7." Category nine, she says, is a "common fantasy ideal which probably doesn't exist in real life."'
Many times Our lifestyle choice has been lambasted by those who look upon it as nothing more than tolerated cruelty and brutality imposed on a certain genre of person. In reality... Gorean principles teach Us that inflicting pain or humiliation.. just for the hell of it.. isn't true Dominance.. or Mastery. True Mastery comes from knowing Oneself, through personal training, Mentorship, and THEN the nurturing of a human being to embrace their full sexuality as well as reach higher heights in the content of their character.
I write this as a Woman who here online... "owns" two slaves. Both women are very.. very precious to Me and both girls fall into different catagories of submissiveness. I call them both slaves.. for a simple reason. They both trust Me and My judgments concerning them. They both CHOSE to give Me that power within their lives and because of that choice. I am responsible for their care and their growth within the confines of the medium W/we are given. I take that responsibility damn serious.
Do I tell Myself that I have the right to crush them... just because I am the Dominant? Hell no. Do I tell Myself that they are less than people because of their decision regarding Me? Hell no! If I wasn't sure of something... would I pretend to know all the answers just because I am the Dominant? HELL NO!
They are My slaves... because God bless em.... they chose to be.
Excellent books for those in the lifestyle,,,
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