Slave Training 101
(an introduction)
NOTE: The words submissive and
slave in this article
are interchangeable, just as Master and
Dominant may also
be.
A Dominant man may have all the
accoutrements of kink, the whips, the chains and the floggers, But he
does not need them to be Dominant. A whisper, a word, a
look, a touch... These are the essence of his talent,
Confidence... his weapon of choice, Not bragging about his dungeon.
Although you'll find the word slave used in this
section, in most situations it is interchangeable with the word
submissive. Whether you are training a girl to be a
slave
or a submissive, each of the things covered here can be taught
to or used by either equally well.
Before we begin talking about training your
slave or
submissive, there are a few basic concepts you must know and be
fully aware of. First, and foremost, whether you call it
owning, collaring, taking, possessing or any other term, having
a girl either as a slave or a submissive is a big
responsibility. This responsibility CAN NOT be
taken lightly. Having a girl as your submissive or
slave
can be just as trying as having a small child. In many
situations, even more so! Never forget, when the girl is
yours, you are fully responsible for her health, welfare,
emotional state and overall well being. There is no such
thing as "it's her fault", it is now entirely Yours!
As the Dominant, You, and You alone assume all
responsibility for her actions and well being. If
you're not fully ready for these responsibilities, then perhaps
it's time to slow down a bit, learn more about this lifestyle
and continue to prepare yourself for the ultimate phase of
having a girl as your own. If the girl you are about to
train or teach is the first girl (submissive or slave) you've
worked with, then I highly suggest you seek some guidance or
assistance from a Mentor
or someone that has a bit of experience in the Dominant
submissive lifestyle. (No, this doesn't mean You'll
have to share Your girl with that
Mentor.)
You'll find having someone to give you a few pointers or use as
a sounding board to discuss problems or difficulties You
encounter will prove invaluable. Don't ever hesitate to
admit to anyone, including your slave/submissive that you
yourself are a Novice if such is the case.
Some things should be common sense, but many times we
tend to overlook common sense. You'll have to pardon Me if
I tend to reduce things to the very basic levels to insure
clarity and understanding. A girl can be a submissive or
slave with or without doing/knowing all of the things discussed
on these pages. Just because I've listed something here
doesn't mean if Your girl doesn't know or do them she's not a
slave. Similarly, there will be things you want to
teach
your girl that might not be covered on here. The methods
and procedures I've listed and detailed may not work for every girl
or for that matter, for every Dominant. I've found they
work for Me, and I've seen them work for others. Modify
them to fit your own unique situation, personality and needs as
appropriate. As your experience grows in this lifestyle
You will naturally find yourself developing your own techniques
and methods. The key is to learn what works best for You
and your girl.
Throughout these pages, you'll find references to
things obviously oriented towards BDSM or sexual activities.
While these things tends to be the normal, there is no
requirement for a sexual act or participation in BDSM for a girl
to be considered as or taught to be a slave or a
submissive.
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Seldom, if ever will you find any two Dominant
submissive (D/s) couples with a relationship that is 100%
identical. It's perfectly appropriate to pattern your
relationship after another's, but don't forget about the
individuality of You and your girl. Each couple has their
own particular likes and dislikes, needs and wants. Your
relationship should also be modified to not only fit Your needs
as an individual, but as a couple as well.
As you begin to work with your slave, don't look for
the easy way out, it isn't there. Opting for shortcuts in
teaching your girl will most certainly result in a dismal
failure. You must learn to be consistent with your girl,
you can't enforce something today, only to ignore it tomorrow.
Regardless of the status of your girl, or what you are
teaching her, at no time will you ever have the right to abuse
her. Insure you are fully aware of your girls mental,
emotional and physical state at all times. For example,
just because a girl has told you something is within her limits,
don't let it surprise you when you suddenly find out it's not.
This is especially true with a complete novice that has never
tried things before. It's a lot different to do or say
something in virtual time or in words only, then suddenly try it
in real time or physically. Yes, this is a two way street
and You may find this impacts on Your own set of limits or
standards too.
As the Dominant, You'll learn that most novice
slaves
will assume or expect you'll have all the answers about this
lifestyle. Learn that there may be many answers you don't
have. Recognize this and try to expand your awareness of
what resources are available to you to find the answers you need
to have. I'm not saying you first have to be a slave to
teach a slave, but you're going to have a difficult time trying
to teach your slave how to iron your shirt if you don't know how
to iron them in the first place.
Take the time to learn about this lifestyle. Make
time to read books, talk with others and observe the
interactions of others. Learn to listen, but also learn to
be comfortable enough to discuss this lifestyle with others.
Just reading or listening won't guarantee you can understand
what you've read. If you're able to competently discuss
something, you'll find it's a pretty safe bet you understand the
subject, and if you don't have a correct understanding, you'll
find yourself being provided more information and clarifications
of the topic through your discussions.
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