Thoughts on a
Master and His submissive/slave
A true Master
shall take pride in the fact that a woman has chosen to devote her
entire being to the satisfaction and fulfillment of his desires.
Just as she, in return, can take pride that such a man has chosen
her, above all others to provide that fulfillment. For openers, the
female should decide that she may actually be a true submissive, and
find the courage and commitment to put herself in the hands of a
true Master. She must know that at that precise moment her option to
make choices will end. He will do what he wants to do, completely
apart from her preconceived ideas.
I am not necessarily referring to physical
discipline, and I am most definitely not referring to the extremes
of physical discipline. There are always limits, and the true Master
knows what they are. He also knows that those limits are different
for every slave. But he also knows that regardless of those
individually determined limits, every slave should at least once be
forced to go one step beyond what she believes she can endure.
A Master should do what pleases him. The secret
is to know the submissive/slave well enough so that while pleasing
himself, he also provides her with fulfillment. But he should also
once in awhile take his submissive/slave (even for a brief moment)
slightly beyond her own self-conceived limits. But in doing so, he
must take care not to really hurt her. Again he must know the
submissive/slave well. In short, a submissive/slave should, once in
awhile, be forced to beg to plead, "Oh God, please stop!" But after
every session, a submissive/slave should also, if only just to
herself, always say, "Oh God, I want him to have me again!"
As I said, it doesn't have to be physical
discipline. If the female is lucky, she may someday find a Master
who is also an expert at sensual "torture." If you have never
experienced this, you may not believe it, but a Master who knows the
art, and who is smart enough to learn what kind of a woman he is
dealing with, will be able to "torture" her with out hurting her at
all! The human body can voluntarily withstand only a certain level
of sensual pleasure or sensation. That is why a man, when he has an
orgasm, usually stops moving, because he just can't stand the
sensation of having the tip of his penis stimulated while he is
coming. That's also why a woman who has a true, full orgasm also
usually stops moving, or arches her and pulls her body taut, or
fights or cries out or curls into a ball. It is not that it hurts.
It is just that the pleasure is unbearable!
But suppose a woman were tied and exposed and
helpless. And suppose that a man knew her well enough to be able to
regularly bring her to full orgasm. And then suppose the Master did
that and kept her there right at the peak for perhaps five minutes
or ten or even twenty minutes! Imagine being at the peak of orgasm
that didn't stop. Imagine straining at your bonds and screaming and
pleading and begging for him to stop, and imagine him being good
enough and strong enough to ignore the screams and to keep that
sensual "torture" going on and on, because it pleases him to hear
the screams and begging him to stop but not until he chooses to, for
himself.
This same principle is true of actual physical
discipline, for those Master/submissive relationships where true
discipline is involved. Suppose that a submissive/slave could,
without being bound, voluntarily withstand thirty lashes of a whip
across her back. But then suppose she was bound, arms stretched high
over head, her body naked and helpless, and her Master begins her
"test." And because she is proud, and because she wants to provide
her Master with as much pleasure as possible, she does not actually
"break" until after forty lashes, but then she begs him to stop. If
he is a true Master, and if it really brings him pleasure to
continue, he should not stop. Perhaps he should continue for another
five lashes, or maybe even ten, depending on his pleasure, of
course, but also based on the knowledge he has, through experience,
of just how much his submissive/slave can really endure, not simply
what her body tells her she can endure.
There is a difference. If the Master is wise and
has been accurate in his assessment of his submissive/slave's true
stamina, the submissive/slave will realize that she actually did
endure it after all. Even more important, she will be proud that she
was able to provide her Master with that additional pleasure, and
the next time perhaps she won't beg until after fifty lashes. But of
course the Master may not stop then, either!
S/M can be the most exciting form of sexual
foreplay ever experienced. Every "Master/submissive" relationship
should be based on a profound and deeply satisfying sexual
relationship. Every meeting should include (and usually conclude
with) some form of sexual activity that is satisfying to both. But
that, of course, is generally true of every deep male/female
relationship.
So what makes this any different? The difference
lies in the submission of one and the dominance of the other. That,
of course, is what your own fantasies have been based on. In effect,
you say you have dreamed of " submitting" yourself to a man,
allowing yourself to be rendered helpless, so that he can "rape"
you. And that act of submission, you say, would enhance the
excitement and pleasure you would derive from the sex act. (Indeed,
the truth may be that this is the only way that you would be able to
derive real pleasure from sex.)
But if this is as far as you've gone in your
fantasies, you may well be asking yourself, "What is all the rest
about?" Why does he/her talk about prolonged sexual teasing and
torture? And what about real discipline... actual pain, even if only
at a very minor threshold level? Would a Master really whip me?
Could you really whip her? I have no idea, but the simple fact is
that all these things, carefully selected and based on each
partner's individual reaction, can be part of what becomes a much
greater and much more rewarding and much more fulfilling sexual
relationship. Sex, without some form of mutual love or deep
feelings, is of little meaning and that, in turn, requires each
partner to try to give the other as much pleasure as possible. For a
submissive that means "giving" herself to her Master, for his
pleasure.
The total submission other mind and body are her
gifts to him, for him to do with as he chooses, and he takes great
pleasure in that gift. Every Master is different, of course, but in
general, takes tremendous pleasure in imposing dominance and will
upon a submissive female, both mentally and physically. Using both
her mind and body to demonstrate power over her. Make her think and
feel like she has never felt before. Forcing her to experience the
furthest extremes of sensual and physical sensations. Making her beg
to stop either the pleasure or the pain. Best of all, the male
should love watching her face and her expressions as she realizes
that, despite her pleas, he is not going to stop, at least not right
that minute. And, finally, he should love watching her recognize his
dominance over her, and then watching her resign her mind and her
body to accept the previously unacceptable ... all for his pleasure!
Through all of this, and governing all of this, is the overriding
"love" that he should feel for her and, in turn, it is her knowledge
that he does care for her deeply, and the trust that that knowledge
gives her, that allows her to give him that marvelous gift of her
mind and body.
But what about the submissive one? What pleasure
does she get? Again each is different, but there are some common
denominators. First, a "submissive/slave" must deeply trust and
deeply care for her Master. She should truly want to give him
pleasure. And so, for most slaves, the first pleasure is the very
deep pleasure derived from the act of giving ... a very profound
pleasure because the gift she gives is also profound. .... She gives
herself!
Second ( although there are some exceptions), a
submissive female usually derives tremendous intellectual, sensual,
and ultimately, sexual pleasure from the experience, assuming, of
course, that the Master is really gifted and sensitive and
understanding. I assure that I have only scratched the surface. The
Master should be able to teach the submissive/slave things about
herself she had never dreamed of, exposing her to sources of
pleasure of a kind and a level and an intensity she had never
imagined!! The Master should explore every part of her mind and
body, and would ultimately discover the keys to her deepest
pleasures. It maybe strictly sensual.
There may be certain special parts of her body
that, properly stimulated, turn on all her sexual senses. It may be
just the bondage and helplessness itself, together with her ability
to commit herself to it. Most submissive women derive tremendous
sexual pleasure simply from being bound. (Almost all of them become
lubricated and ready for sexual intercourse while in bondage.) She
may find pleasure in pain. And if she does, it may be just a certain
level of pain, or pain applied just to a certain part of her body.
Many submissive people derive the most intense and exquisite sexual
pleasure from the forced imposition of physical discipline, even to
the point of orgasm.
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You should know that " discipline" doesn't mean
simply the whip. (Although, indeed, that phrase simply the whip" is
totally misleading. There are literally hundreds of different kinds
of whips, each capable of being used in a hundred different ways, so
that in just this one "simple" area, there are an infinite variety
of ways available to a knowledgeable Master to impose an equally
infinite variety of torments.) But there is so much, much more ....
endless means, endless targets, endless degrees. To a really
imaginative and experienced Master, a marvelous and exquisite and
almost limitless choice is available. But he must also have the
sensitivity and the understanding and, yes, the love, to choose the
right ones. If he does, he will be successful in fulfilling his role
as a Master. He will provide pleasure for himself, of his own
choosing, but he will also provide his submissive partner either
extreme pleasure or total psychological fulfillment or, often, both,
depending on her own special nature and needs.
Then there is the whole area of submission
without bondage. A true Master, using proper training, can teach a
woman to be totally submissive without putting her in bondage. If
you really have accepted a man as your Master, you should want to
totally obey him without being "forced" If he orders you to strip,
you will strip. If he orders you to kneel, you will kneel. If he
orders you to stand before him with your legs apart and your arms
stretched high above your head, and not to move, you will do as he
orders. And if while you are standing there, he chooses to whip you,
you still will not move. And if he orders you to count the lashes,
you will count them for him. And if he orders you to kneel, naked
next to his bed while he sleeps and to remain there, instantly ready
too serve him in any way should he awake, you will kneel there,
silent and naked and ready, and you will stay there. And if he does
not awake until morning, you will still be there ... still kneeling
.... still naked .... still ready. But then a wise Master will order
you to join him, and he will acknowledge the great pleasure your
obedience has given him, and he will reward you with that special
marvelous pleasure of your own that he knows so well to give you.
So what's this all about? A wonderfully
elaborate, infinitely varied, terribly exciting series of scenarios,
carefully and lovingly selected and orchestrated by the Master to
provide both himself and his submissive partner with the most
exquisite and profound emotional and sexual pleasure, each scenario
based on, taking advantage of, and dramatizing the dominant nature
of one and the submissive nature of the other.
It is of course, a tremendous challenge. First,
there's the challenge to the submissive to accept and endure the
torment of bondage and discipline by which her chosen Master tests
her and through out which he realizes the most profound pleasure. (A
weak or sniveling "submissive/slave" provides little pleasure for a
Master) Of course, there are limits and, of course, they must be
respected. But there will be those special times when, after being
queried by her Master, the proud submissive will take as deep a
breath as her chains will permit, look him in the eye, and in her
own special way and words say, in effect, "I'm here for your
pleasure. Please don't stop until you are totally satisfied." That
is the challenge of the body.
But there is also the challenge of the mind and
the spirit. After all, a man is physically stronger than a woman, so
physical domination (in its rawest sense, at least) is easy. But
intellectually it's a different matter because in an ideal S/M
relationship, both partners should be equal in intellect, so that
the dominant and submissive roles result from conviction and choice
rather than imposition.
In addition to being physically dominant, a
"Master"- while not intellectually superior, must also be
intellectually dominant ... dominant by nature and spirit and will
.... choosing to dominate while the submissive chooses to understand
and appreciate and ultimately submit to that will. That is a much
more subtle and a far more difficult challenge. But you need two
things:
1. A Master who really knows how to lead the
slave to the far most pleasures.
2. A submissive/slave with the courage to take
the first step to try it.
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