Thoughts on a Master and His submissive/slave
A true Master shall take pride in the
fact that a woman has chosen to devote her entire being to the
satisfaction and fulfillment of his desires. Just as
she, in return, can take pride that such a man has chose her,
above all others to provide that fulfillment. For
openers, the female should decide that she may actually be a
true submissive, and find the courage and commitment to put
herself in the hands of a true Master. She must
know that at that precise moment her option to make choices
will end. He will do what he wants to do, completely
apart from her preconceived ideas.
I am not necessarily
referring to physical discipline, and I am
most definitely not referring to the extremes
of physical discipline. there are always
limits, and the true Master knows what they
are. He also knows that those limits are
different for every slave. But he also
knows that regardless of those individually
determined limits, every slave should at least
once be forced to go one step beyond what she
believes she can endure. A Master should
do what pleases him. The secret is to
know the submissie/slave well enough so that
while pleasing himself, he also provides her
with fulfillment. But he should also
once in awhile take his submissive/slave (even
for a brief moment) slightly beyond her own
self-conceived limits. But in doing so,
he must take care not to really hurt her.
Again he must know the submissive/slave well.
In short, a submissive/slave should, once in
awhile, be forced to beg to plead, "Oh God,
please stop!" but every session, a
submissive/slave should also, if only just to
herself, always say, "Oh God, I want him to
have me again!"
As I said, it doesn't have to be
physical discipline. If the female is lucky, she may
someday find a Master who is also an expert at sensual
"torture." If you have never experienced this, you may
not believe it, but a Master who knows the art, and who is
smart enough to learn what kind of a woman he is dealing with,
will be able to "torture" her without hurting her at all.
The human body can voluntarily withstand only a certain
level of sensual pleasure or sensation. That is why a
man, when he has an orgasm, usually stops moving, because he
just can't stand the sensation having the of his penis
stimulated while he is coming. That's also why a woman
who has a true, full orgasm also usually stops moving, or
arches her back and pulls her body taut, or fights or cries
out or curls in a ball. It is not that it hurts, It is
just that the pleasure is unbearable.
But suppose a woman were tied and
exposed and helpless. And suppose that a man knew her
well enough to be able to regularly bring her to full orgasm.
And then suppose the Master did that and kept her there right
at the peak for perhaps five minutes, or ten, or twenty!
Imagine being at the peak of orgasm that didn't stop.
Imagine straining at your bonds and screaming and pleading,
begging for him to stop. Imagine Him being good enough
and strong enough to ignore the screams and to keep that
sensual "torture" going on and on, because it please him to
the the screams and begging him to stop but not until he
chooses to, for himself.
This same principle is true of actual
physical discipline, for those Master/submissive relationships
where true discipline is involved. Suppose that a
submissive/slave could, without being bound, voluntarily
withstand thirty lashes of a whip across her back. But
then suppose she was bound, arms stretched high over head, her
body naked and helpless, and her Master begins her "test".
And because she is proud, and because she wants to provide her
Master with as much pleasure as possible, she does not
actually "break" until after forty lashes, but then she begs
him to stop. If He is a true Master, and if it really
brings him pleasure to continue, he should not stop.
Perhaps he should continue for another five lashes, or maybe
even ten, depending on his pleasure, of course, but also based
on the knowledge he has, through experience, of just how much
his submissive/slave can really endure, not simply what her
body tells her she can endure.
There is a difference.
If the Master is wise and has been accurate in
his assessment of his submissive/slave's true
stamina, the submissive/slave will realize
that she actually did endure it after all.
Even more important, she will be proud that
she was able to proved her Master with that
additional pleasure, and he next time perhaps
she won't beg until after fifty lashes. But of
course, the Master may not stop then either!
S/M can be the most
exciting form of sexual foreplay ever
experienced. Every "Master/submissive"
relationship should be based on a profound and
deeply satisfying sexual relationship.
Every meeting should include (and usually
conclude with) some form of sexual activity
that is satisfying to both. But that of
course is generally true of evey deep
male/female relationship. So what makes this
any different? The difference lies in
the submission of one and the dominance of the
other. That of course is what your own
fantasies have been based on. In effect,
you say you have dreamed of "submitting"
yourself to a man, allowing yourself to be
rendered helpless, so that he can "rape" you.
and that act of submission, you say, would
enhance the excitement and pleasure you would
derive from the sex act. (Indeed, th truth may
be that this is the only way that you would be
able to derive real pleasure from sex.)
But if this is as far
as you've gone in your fantasies, you may well
be asking yourself "What is all the rest
about? Why does he/her talk about
prolonged sexual teasing and torture?
And what about real discipline... actual pain,
even if only at a very minor threshold level?
would a Master really whip me? Could you
really whip her? I have no idea, but the
simple fact is that all these things,
carefully selected and based on each partner's
individual reaction, can be part of what
becomes a much greater and much more rewarding
and much more fulfilling sexual relationship.
Sex, without some form of mutual lover of deep
feelings, is of little meaning and that, in
turn, requires each partner to try to give the
other as much pleasure as possible. For
a submissive that means "giving" herself to
her Master, for his pleasure.
The total submission
of her mind and body are her gifts to him, for
him to do with as he chooses and he takes
great pleasure in that gift. Every
Master is different, of course, but in general
takes tremendous pleasure in imposing
dominance and will upon a submissive female,
both mentally and physically. Using both
her mind and body to demonstrate power over
her. Make her thing and feel like she
has never felt before. Forcing her to
experience the furthest extremes of sensual
and physical sensations. Making her beg to
stop either the pleasure or the pain.
Bet of all, the male should love watching her
face and her expressions as she realizes that
despite her pleas, he is not going to stop, at
least not right that minute. And
finally, he should love watching her recognize
his dominance over her and then watching her
resign her mind and her body to accept the
previously unacceptable... All for his
pleasure! Through all of this, and
governing all of this, is the overriding
"love" that he should feel for her and in
turn, it is her knowledge that de does care
for her deeply and the trust that knowledge
gives her, that allows her to give him that
marvelous gif of her mind and body.
But what about the
submissive one? What pleasure does she
get? Again, each is different but there
are some common denominators. First, a
submissive/slave must deeply trust and deeply
care for her Master. She should truly
want to give him pleasure. And so, for
most slaves the first pleasure is the very
deep pleasure derived from the act of
giving... a very profound pleasure
because the gift she gives is also profound...
She gives herself!
Second (although there
are some exceptions), a submissive female
usually derives tremendous intellectual,
sensual, and ultimately, sexual pleasure from
the experience, assuming of course, that the
Master is really gifted and sensitive and
understanding. I assure you that I have
only scratched the surface. The Master
should be able to teach the submissive/slave
things about herself she had never dreamed of,
exposing her to sources of pleasure of a kind
and a level of intensity she had never
imagined! The Master should explore
every part of her mind and body, and would
ultimately discover the keys to her deepest
pleasures. It may be strictly sensual.
There may be certain
special parts of her body that, properly
stimulated, turn on all her sexual senses.
It may be just the bondage and helplessness
itself, together with her ability to commit
herself to it. Most submissive women
derive tremendous sexual pleasure simply from
being bound (Almost all become lubricated and
ready for sexual intercourse while in
bondage). She may find pleasure in pain.
If she does, it my be just a certain level of
pain, or pain applied just to certain areas of
her body. Many submissives derive the
most intense and exquisite sexual pleasure
from the forced imposition of physical
discipline, even to the point of orgasm.
You should know that
"discipline" doesn't mean simply the whip.
(Although, indeed, that phrase "simply the
whip" is totally misleading. There are
literally hundreds of different kinds of
whips, each capable of being used in a hundred
different ways, so that in just this one
"simple" area there are an infinite variety of
ways available to a knowledgeable Master to
impose an equally infinite variety of
torments.) But there is so much, much more...
endless means, endless targets, endless
degrees. To a really imaginative and
experienced Master, a marvelous and exquisite
and almost limitless choice is available.
But he must also have the sensitivity and the
understanding and yes, the love to choose the
right ones. If he does, he will be
successful in fulfilling his role as a Master.
He will provide pleasure for himself, of his
own choosing but he will also provide his
submissive partner wither extreme pleasure or
total psychological fulfillment or quite
often, both... depending on her own special
nature and needs.
Then there is the
whole area of submission without bondage.
A true Master, using proper training, can
teach a woman to be totally submissive without
putting her in bondage. If you really
have accepted a man as your Master, you should
want to totally obey him without being
"forced". If he orders you to strip, you
will strip. If he orders you to kneel, you
will kneel. If he orders you to stand
before him with your legs apart and your arms
stretched high above your head and not to
move, you will do as he orders. And if while
you are standing there, he chooses to whip
you, you still will not move. And if he
orders you to count the lashes, you will count
them for him. And if he orders you to
kneel naked next to his be while he sleeps and
to remain there, instantly ready to serve him
in any way should he awake, you will kneel
there, silent and naked and ready, and you
will stay there. If he does not awake
until morning you will still be there...
still kneeling... still naked...
still ready. But then a wise Master will
order you to join him, and he will acknowledge
the great pleasure your obedience has given
him, and he will regard you with that special
marvelous pleasure of your own that he knows
so well to give you.
So what's this all
about? A wonderfully elaborate,
infinitely varied, terribly exciting series of
scenarios, carefully and lovingly selected and
orchestrated by the Master to provide both
imself and his submissive partner with the
most exquisite and profound emotional and
sexual pleasure, each scenario based on taking
advantage of and dramatizing the dominant
nature of one and the submissive nature of the
other.
It is of course a
tremendous challenge. First, there's the
challenge to the submissive to accept and
endure the torment of bondage and discipline
by which her chosen Master tests her and
through out which he realizes the most
profound pleasure. (A weak or sniveling
submissive/slave provides little pleasure for
a Master) Of course, there are limits and of
course they must be respected. But there
will be those special times when, after being
queried by her Master, the roud submissive
will take as deep a breah as her chains will
permit, look him in the eye, and in her own
special way and words, say in effect, "I'm
here for your pleasure, please don't stop
until you are totally satisfied". That
is the challenge of the body.
There is also the
challenge of the mind and the spirit.
After all, a man is physically stronger than a
woman, so physical domination (in its rawest
sense at least) is easy. Intellectually
it's a different matter because in an ideal
S/M relationship, both partners should be
equal in intellect, so that the dominant and
submissive roles result from conviction and
choice rather than imposition.
In addition to
being physically dominant, a "Master" while
not intellectually superior, must also be
intellectually dominant... dominant by
nature and spirit and will... choosing to
dominate while the submissive chooses to
understand and appreciate and ultimately
submit to that will. That is a much more
subtle and a fra more difficult
challenge. But you need two things:
1. A Master who
really knows how to lead the slave to the far
most pleasures.
2. A
submissive/slave with the courage to take the
first step to try it.
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