Ending a Dominant Submissive
Relationship
I
s a dominant still a dominant
if they cannot offer honesty and respect to a
submissive - if the very basis of this lifestyle
is meant to be trust, respect and honesty then isn't that
something that both a Dom and sub should expect at all
times....isn't it the very least that any human being
deserves.
I have come to the unfortunate
conclusion that how a Dominant ends a relationship says
more about him as both a Dominant and as a man than
anything else ever could. So many Doms think that ending a
Dominant submissive (D/s)
relationship is the same as ending a vanilla relationship
- they understand little about the psychology of
submission. Whatever stage a relationship gets to if there
has been any degree of submission then the sub has given a
part of herself to him and to just walk away and lie about
your reasons for ending the relationship is nothing short
of abandonment.
No matter what a
Dominant says about why a relationship
ends - whatever lie he tells himself will ease the pain
for the submissive - she will assume all
of the blame...it is the nature of a submissive.
Her aim has been to please her Dominant -
the fact that he has left her means, to her mind, that she
has failed in some way - and she will question everything
about herself in an effort to figure out what it was that
caused her to fail. Very often if she has insecurities -
however unfounded - she will assume that it is one of
those flaws that have caused the ending....it reinforces
all of her insecurities....if a submissive
was good enough to call his at any stage then a
Dominant should not in one fell swoop discard her
and cause her to question everything about herself -
perhaps even her ability to submit.
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