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A submissives journey - The Responsibilities of a Dominant
Responsibilities of a Dominant
Responsibilities of a Dominant within the D/s Lifestyle should not be taken lightly. Failing to fulfill these responsibilities can not only jeopardize the relationship, but can actually result in physical or emotional harm to the submissive.
1. Trust:
Your submissive's submission is a gift. It is your
responsibility not to violate or abuse her trust in you.
Whenever there are decisions you must make, you need to keep
Both You and Your submissive in mind, not just yourself.
2. Help:
It is your responsibility to help your submissive find what
is already inside of her, and not try to create it for her.
Before turning your attention toward your submissive, you
need to be the best Dominant You can possibly be. Bare in
mind, this does not mean perfection, but it does not mean
whimsical either.
3. Leadership:
Your responsibility is not to take your leadership lightly
and not to bail out of things get heavy. It is your
responsibility to recognize that everyone is different, and
your submissive may not respond like your co-workers,
friends, etc. You need to employ creativity rather than
formula.
4. Communication:
You know the key to bringing out the best in Your
relationship lies in accumulating knowledge, communicating
openly, and approaching the situation and Your partner
without hatred or animosity. It is your responsibility to
guard your submissive’s mental health-- to not guess or try
to read “between the lines”, but to communicate openly with
her.
5. Safety:
It is your responsibility to make sure your submissive is
safe. You must be responsible for finding out what your
submissive’s true limits are, and staying within the
boundaries those limit describe. You have a responsibility
to discuss any punishments after its conclusion and to be
open to any criticism that may come from your submissive
regarding the way things were handled.
6. Rules:
It is your responsibility to involve your submissive in the
planning of her rules and their punishments, and to find out
as much as possible about her desires and fantasies. To not
be arrogant, but to actively seek help from your submissive
in discovering those areas in which you can improve. To not
be misleading about yourself or your abilities.
7. Punishment:
It is your responsibility to be stern. She may not like the
punishment, but she will always respect you for it. You will
continue your support and affection, especially while you
are punishing her. You must never withhold your support and
affection from her as a means of punishment. When you punish
your submissive, you must do so for the good of your
submissive, not just for the fulfillment of your own
desires.
