Responsibilities of a Dominant
Responsibilities of a
Dominant within the Dominant submissive (D/s) Lifestyle should
not be taken lightly. Failing to fulfill these
responsibilities can not only jeopardize the relationship, but
can actually result in physical or emotional harm to the
submissive.
1. Trust:
Your submissive's submission is a gift. It is your
responsibility not to violate or abuse her trust in you.
Whenever there are decisions you must make, you need to keep
Both You and Your submissive in mind, not just yourself.
2. Help:
It is your responsibility to help your
submissive find what is already inside of her, and not try to
create it for her. Before turning your attention toward your
submissive, you need to be the best Dominant You can possibly
be. Bare in mind, this does not mean perfection, but it does
not mean whimsical either.
3. Leadership:
Your responsibility is not to take your leadership lightly and
not to bail out of things get heavy. It is your responsibility
to recognize that everyone is different, and your submissive
may not respond like your co-workers, friends, etc. You need
to employ creativity rather than formula.
4.
Communication:
You know the key to bringing out the
best in Your relationship lies in accumulating knowledge,
communicating openly, and approaching the situation and Your
partner without hatred or animosity. It is your responsibility
to guard your submissive's mental health-- to not guess or try
to read 'between the lines', but to communicate openly with
her.
5. Safety:
It is your responsibility to
make sure your submissive is safe. You must be responsible for
finding out what your submissive's true limits are, and
staying within the boundaries those limit describe. You have a
responsibility to discuss any punishments after its conclusion
and to be open to any criticism that may come from your
submissive regarding the way things were handled.
6.
Rules:
It is your responsibility to involve your
submissive in the planning of her rules and their punishments,
and to find out as much as possible about her desires and
fantasies. To not be arrogant, but to actively seek help from
your submissive in discovering those areas in which you can
improve. To not be misleading about yourself or your
abilities.
7. Punishment:
It is your
responsibility to be stern. She may not like the punishment,
but she will always respect you for it. You will continue your
support and affection, especially while you are punishing her.
You must never withhold your support and affection from her as
a means of punishment. When you punish your submissive, you
must do so for the good of your submissive, not just for the
fulfillment of your own desires.
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