A submissives journey - Returning to Vanilla

Submissive Do's

and Don'ts...

While this page is primarily intended for guiding a submissive or

a slave in their "online conduct" or "behavior", you'll find quite a few

of these things can actually carry over into real life.

Whether you are a slave or a submissive, you'll always be expected

to show courtesy and respect to anyone that you encounter

online, especially if you find yourself in the company of, or

talking to a Dominant. Remember, if you embarrass yourself,

you also embarrass your Dominant. The quickest way to find a

novice sub is to watch for the lack of respect she shows to a

Dominant in a chat room. A submissive or slave may not like a

Dominant she comes across while she's chatting, but that is still

no reason not to be courteous and respectful. And yes, it goes

without saying, as a submissive or slave you are also due

appropriate respect from anyone else you come across,

including Dominants.

First things first, remember anytime you are online you have a

couple of inherent capabilities, regardless of how submissive

you are, you and you alone always have control of your "off

switch, ignore button, and delete keys" on your computer. Don't

ever forget this! Keep in mind the rule that for every 100 so

called Dom's you find online, if you're lucky, perhaps one of

them will turn out to be a real Dom or Master. With that,

understand there are idiots and wannabe's out there. A

submissive or slave is under no obligation or commitment to

honor the instructions, discipline or domination of anyone

except her Dominant.

As you wander around the internet, you'll find there are many

chat rooms or communities that will insist that a submissive or

especially a slave, seek permission to enter the room before

she comes in. Often these rooms will expect the submissive/

slave to state their "asl" (age, sex and location) followed by a

request to enter the room. While personally, I disagree with this

practice of having to ask for permission to enter a room, it is a

policy of those rooms and should be respected. Other rooms

such as Asj's chat room will welcome you with open arms as

you come in the room. Unless you've been to a room before,

or someone has recommended you to the room and told you

of the policy there, it's almost impossible to know in advance

and you'll have to play it by ear.

Once inside of a chat room, the keywords to remember are

"respect" and "courtesy". If you show respect and courtesy,

you'll soon find that you get respect and courtesy. Don't forget

to greet all members in the room, not just the Dominants! It's

very appropriate to say hello to the individuals there that you

already know, but it is equally appropriate to say hello to those

that you don't know. If it's observed that you only greet the

Dominants in a room, you may soon find yourself developing

the reputation as a bit of a troll.

Did you know, the Asj Community hosts ‘Lifestyle Classes and Discussions’ here online every Sunday evening at 9:00 pm Eastern Time. The Classes and Discussions are open to all and Free to attend. Visit our Members Only Pages for more information, or click any of our “ask live” icons to ask for more information.

This Dominant submissive/slave lifestyle website first became active on about February 1, 2002. The Asj community has been online in one form or another since approximately early 1985.

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- For those of the Gorean (Gor) persuasion, yes the Asj chat rooms include a Gorean Chat room, considered to be a safe zone.

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