On The Kinky Side (BDSM)

Common Sense in BDSM

20-10-2011 Hits:1067 BDSM Related Articles Asj - Not Stated - avatar Asj - Not Stated

Common Sense in BDSM

1. Never play if you have been drinking alcohol. It dulls the senses and impairs judgment. 2. Never play with someone you don't feel completely safe with - trust your...

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A 'FREE' Months Membership...

13-10-2014 Hits:1412 Asj Site Related Content CJ - avatar CJ

Do you have a blog, a web site, or a Facebook page?    Would you like a month’s free Gold membership on Asj?   If you have one of these pages and you’ll...

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From the Asj Library

When We Meet

25-09-2014 Hits:230 D/s Lifestyle Topics Asj- Not Stated - avatar Asj- Not Stated

  There should be a Dominant. Since he has the power, he also as the responsibility to the submissive. That includes giving her pleasure, knowing and doing what makes her happy...

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The Asj Web Site hosts D/s and BDSM Lifestyle Classes and Discussions every Sunday and Wednesday evening at 9:15 PM (Eastern Time). Topics include all aspects of power exchange and BDSM relationships. These classes are free to attend and open to all members. Regardless of your lifestyle role, or level of experience, we invite you to attend.

Asj has long recognized the various styles or forms of Power Exchange Relationships.  Included in these is the Gorean (Gor) lifestyle.  Although originally based on a series of science fiction books by John Norma, modified a bit to allow for reality, Gor is a very viable form of the Lifestyle, both online and off.  Gor is considered to be a very black or white type structure, filled with protocols, traditions and rules.  It is also considered to be very sensual.  A girls obedience and loyalty in Gor is considered to be absolute. Asj’s Gorean Community is referred to as “The Sanctuary Vidrew” (SV).  If your interest is towards Gor, we invite you to visit the Gorean sections in the Library and to visit the SV Chat Room. 

The Asj Web Site hosts D/s and BDSM Lifestyle Classes and Discussions every Sunday and Wednesday evening at 9:15 PM (Eastern Time). Topics include all aspects of power exchange and BDSM relationships. These classes are free to attend and open to all members. Regardless of your lifestyle role, or level of experience, we invite you to attend.

Share Your Needs And Feelings With Your Partner.  If you can't ask them for what you want in bed, you shouldn't be sleeping with them. Good sex happens when we feel safe and at ease. If we're afraid to ask for something or to tell our partner that we don't like something, sex will never be more than mediocre.

Once we identify what we want and don't want, we have to express these things clearly. It's unfair to expect our partner to be a mind-reader and "prove" that they care by somehow knowing what we want without our having to tell them. Healthy sex comes out of healthy communication.

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