1. THOU SHALT ACCEPT HIM FOR WHO HE IS
...not for what you wish he could be. You can change little things, but not big stuff. If you simply can't accept him, you probably shouldn't be with him. And you certainly shouldn't bother to follow all these commandments for him.
2. THOU SHALT ADORE HIS PENIS
Gentlemen love their own penises, and so should you. His penis is not just his greatest source of pleasure, it's his identity. Explore his other erogenous zones--his buns, nipples, feet, lips, ears--but you can't focus too much affectionate attention on his precious penis. Love it in sickness and in health, in hardness and in limpness. Basically, the more harmoniously the three of you can live together, the happier all of you will be.
3. THOU SHALT BE A SOURCE OF BEAUTY IN HIS LIFE
You don't have to be model-perfect. Just find out which parts of your body he likes, and accentuate their beauty. Dress for sex, at least occasionally. Love your body. Be a pleasure to his eyes, and he'll never take them off you.
4. THOU SHALT INSPIRE HIM
Your intelligence, beauty, and integrity are inspirations to your gentleman. But your pleasure is his greatest, and your sexual pleasure is his sweetest inspiration. Men work to get laid, either by someone special, the whole world, or something in between. Be a beacon of light in this life. Inspire him to work, to live, to love, to please you.
5. THOU SHALT EXCITE HIM
Men are natural hunters and love the excitement of the chase. Keep him eroticized and just a bit off-balance. Complacency leads to displeasure. Keep him aware that others want you. Excite him with naughty surprises.
6. THOU SHALT MOTHER HIM, BUT NOT SMOTHER HIM
All gentlemen need to be mothered, but men have experienced different mothers and so enjoy different kinds of mothering. The secret of "pleasure-mothering" is to discover the precise level and kind of mothering to which your particular gentleman is most receptive.
7. THOU SHALT DISCOVER HIS DEEPEST DESIRES AND FANTASIES
Men love to explore their sexual fantasies and fetishes. If your gentleman doesn't do it with you, he'll do it with somebody else (or at least he'll want to). If you can discover and enjoy erotic fantasies together, roleplaying or just talking about them, you'll press a precious pleasure point in his body, mind, and soul that he won't easily give up.
8. THOU SHALT REMEMBER WHAT THY MAMA SAID, "ALL MEN ARE LITTLE BOYS"
With some gentlemen, it's obvious. With others, it's very deep inside, locked away in a mental closet. But it's always there. Draw out the little boy in him, play with him, talk to him. And remember: All boys like toys. Boys tend to regard everything as toys or "objects," at least sometimes. Don't resent this aspect of your gentleman; play with it.
9. THOU SHALT REGARD HIM AS A HERO
Give him your admiration and he will give you his devotion. He may not like the word "hero," but he'll like the way he feels when you let him know you're proud of him, because you touch a sensitive pleasure point: the male ego. Never define his heroism in terms of violence, except in self-defense or the defense of you and your family.
10. THOU SHALT SWALLOW
...at least occasionally. For most men, swallowing is a physical joy and a spiritual symbol. A communion of sorts. If he's clean, his come is clean. If you're not sure he's clean, skip this one. Save come-in-your-mouth communion for a gentleman you love and are sure of.
***These are abbreviated versions of Dr. Block's new book The 10 Commandments of Pleasure (St. Martin's Press).