Clips & Clamps
A submissives journey
A submissives journey
First let me say this: Erotic pain is a very
individual choice. Not all of you will find this appealing. For those who do, I
hope this discussion will help you increase your skill. For those who don't, it
will at least provide you knowledge about the subject.
With experience and with the right person limits tend to expand. What may seem unappealing
today may end up being powerfully gratifying later.
Second only to whips/floggers, clamps in their various forms are the most
commonly used toys in delivering erotic pain. They can be placed almost anywhere
on the body, with the nipples and genitals being the most frequent locations.
This discussion is a general overview of clamping technique.
Ah, Variety! Clamps come in a variety of shapes and sizes. They can be simple
everyday devices such as clothespins or paper clips, or they can be specially
designed (the type you'll find in your local fetish shop). Most clamps can have
their tightness adjusted, even if that is nothing more than a rubber band around
a clothespin in order to make it squeeze more or less tightly. Since every submissive's tolerance to pain is difference, this ability to adjust the
pressure is critically important.
Keep in mind: The more sexually aroused someone is, the more pain they can take.
Once that arousal is lost, clamps just plain hurt. Therefore, only apply them if
the submissive feels aroused.
Key points to remember before you apply clamps to your submissive:
Clamps hurt continuously, even if you forget about them. Unlike flogging, which
takes effort on your part, once applied, clamps keep doing what they are
designed to do without any other effort from you. Losing track of this is a sure
sign of an inept dominant.
Clamps restrict or cut off circulation to the clamped area. Since the skin
beneath the clamp is receiving little or no blood, you don't want to leave them
on for too long. How long that is depends on the site you are clamping, the type
and grip strength of the clamp, and how much tissue is actually pinched.
As a rule of thumb, smaller sites should be clamped for shorter lengths of time.
For example, clamp nipples for 15-20 mins. Larger sites, such as the thighs,
calves, upper arms, or buttocks can take longer periods, but should never exceed
one hour.
The tighter the clamp, the shorter a clamp should remain in place. You would do
well to experiment on yourself first to get an idea of how each of your clamps
feels when used.
Applying Clamps: (Adapted from SM101 - A Realistic Introduction, by Jay Wiseman)
Take the clamp in your dominant hand and squeeze it open. With your other hand,
pinch a fold of skin between your thumb and forefinger. Gradually increase the
pressure until it is equal to what the clamp will be applying. Slip the open
clamp over the skin and slowly allow it to close.
Warning the submissive that s/he may feel sharp pain for about 30 seconds is a
good way to allow them to prepare mentally . Once you've closed the clamp over
the skin, gradually release the pressure from your pinching fingers and remove
your hand.
Allow the submissive a minute or so to get used to the sensation. Don't distract them. This is an important moment for them, so don't mess it up. Watch their breathing. If they relax, everything is probably fine. If not, the clamp is probably too tight. Note their muscles: if they remain tense, they are probably not aroused enough to enjoy the sensation
No way around it, friends: Clamps hurt coming off, especially nipples. As the
blood returns to the affected part and the skin expands, pain results. This is
why timing the removal is so very important, since ability to accept pain
decreases as sexual arousal lessens. Waiting too long can make for an unpleasant
experience.
To remove the clamp, make sure your hands are dry. Place your thumb and
forefinger of your non-dominant hand near the clamped area to stabilize it.
Don't squeeze. Grip the free ends of the clamp and slowly squeeze it until the
pressure is completely off of the tissue. Lift the clamp straight up.
Once you begin removing the clamp, don't stop. Doing so will only make things
worse. The ability to remove a clamp with a little pain as possible is the mark
of a skilled dominant. Learn by practicing...beginning with yourself.
One common mistake that inexperienced dominants make is to rub the skin after
the clamp has been removed. Don't do it, unless you intend to increases the pain
sharply. If not, mitts off: let the tissue expand at its own pace.
Well...have fun! Now that your submissive is clamped, you can move on to other
parts of the body. Combining the sensation of pain from the clamping with other
erotic stimulation can be quite a powerful experience for the submissive. Caress
them, masturbate them, have intercourse. Give them pleasure!
You can also play with the clamps themselves if you do so gradually and gently.
Once you know how much your submissive can take (learned over a period of
several sessions), you might try kissing or licking the tissue, sucking the
clamps into your mouth, perhaps. Other suggestions:
Gently pulling clamp slightly away from body or using your fingers to
increase/decrease the clamp's pressure. .Attach the clamps to something, such as
his/her collar, a leash, an eyebolt, or very light weights (on the order of one
to two ounces)
Rosebuds:
Logically enough, nipples are the favorite targets for our clamping. After all,
it seems those small, rounded buds were perfectly designed by Nature for just
such erotic titillation. There are some special considerations you should be
familiar with, however, before you tighten those Clinging Claws over tender
nodules:
A little pressure goes a long way here. Start off by slowly tightening the
clamp, watching or asking for feedback from the sub. Some can take a lot, others
very little.
Some women seem to have a direct connection between nipples and clitoris. The
right amount of pressure here can translate to intense sexual pleasure, perhaps
even orgasm. This is not, however, something against which you should measure
your sub. If she has it, wonderful. If not, that's fabulous, too!
Men's nipples are very small in comparison with women's and require clamps
specifically designed for their smaller size.
Most women experience an increase in sensitivity during their menstrual flow. Be
aware and considerate.
Place the clamp behind the tip of the nipple. Clamping the tip can be excruciatingly
painful and your sub will no doubt let you know in no uncertain (and loud) terms
if your make this mistake.
Clamps can be placed in a variety of positions in relation to the nipple, but
parallel to the body is usually the most desirable. Placing them perpendicular
(sticking straight out from the nipple) can cause them to flop over under the
clamp's own weight, another source of potentially very non-erotic pain.
Nipples need to be dry when you apply the clamps. Otherwise, they slip off.
Try clamping one at a time. Clamp one, move to some other part of the body and
offer pleasurable stimulation, then clamp the other.
Do the same in reverse when removing them. Remove one, break for a minute or two
while pleasuring another part of their body, then remove the other.
Although you'll never eliminate the pain associated with removing the nipple
clamps, you can reduce it somewhat by touching and caressing the skin between
the breasts with something soft. This keeps the nerves busy trying to process
two signals and can inhibit pain.
Parts is Parts:
Where else can you apply clamps?
Genitals
Male: scrotum (least sensitive), foreskin (varies), shaft (difficult with an
erection), head (most sensitive/intense), and perineum (the area of skin between
scrotum and anus - most men can tolerate this fairly well)
Female: Outer labia (least intense), inner labia (can be a fragile, sensitive
area), clitoris (can you say, "Excruciating?")
Earlobes (clamping the cartilage is very painful!) .Eyebrows - careful: you are
dangerously close to the eyes.
Nose (don't clamp it closed)
Lips
Tongue
Neck
Chest/Breasts (other than nipple)
Arms, legs (inner thighs especially), belly, buttocks. Just about any place you
can find a fold of flesh.
In Summary:
Clamps provide a versatile way for the dominant and submissive to further their
power exchange, add a new dimension to their erotic encounters, and reach new
heights in sexual pleasure. How well the experience turns out depends almost
entirely upon the dominant's skill and understanding. Ease into this one and
enjoy it within your submissive's limits
